The Make it Mentionable Show

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Iona Holloway is on the show with me this week for an illuminating conversation about shrinking, shadows, shame, and self-liberation.

The first question we ask is, “Is inner work worth it?” Once we cover that, we dive into why women shrink and the many faces shrinking can have. 

We talk about safety, coping mechanisms, how to be on your own team, what it means to be brave, and the walls strong women put up to protect themselves (and how to take them down).

ABOUT IONA

Iona is the best selling author of Ghost – Why Perfect Women Shrink and founder of Brave Thing. She helps strong women do inner work to find the blindspots holding them back from burning brighter and braver and being more themselves in their lives, work, and relationships.

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My friend Dr. Amber Ortega joins me to talk about science and spirituality. As a scientist, firefighter, and priestess, Amber brings a unique lens to exploring these two worlds that often seem at odds. 

We talk about the science of fire and why it’s been such a powerful symbol for humans throughout history. We also discuss what fire teaches us about boundaries, how agreement fields set us up for success, and the importance of trusting our bodies. 

And in a world that’s obsessed with the brightest flame and flashiest lights, Amber and I talk about the science of smoldering and what it means for us on a day-to-day basis.

ABOUT AMBER

Dr. Amber Ortega is a weaver of science and spirit, here to co-create planetary healing. She earned her PhD in Atmospheric Chemistry and is an Elemental Priestess of the Sacred Arts. She’s a lover of deep conversations and comfortable with most things taboo (which makes her a fantastic guest in this episode)! She’s also a Wildland Firefighter and lives a vegan, sober lifestyle.

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Irina Leoni joins me to talk about the nuances of what it means to travel full time. We dive into what it takes to own and act on your desires, how burn out can creep in even while traveling, the emotions traveling full time can bring up, and what to do if you decide you want to go all in on travel.

Questions of loneliness come up in addition to a conversation about the choice to be alcohol-free.

Irina also gives a few killer tips for transitioning to a new place or space.

Since Irina is a photographer she also drops some quick tips for making your photos instantly more engaging.

Travel as a spiritual practice is the name of the game for Irina, is this something that calls to you? Let me know in the comments.

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Ron Cecil joins me for a conversation about creating intentional relationships—the kind that add more vibrancy to our lives.

I met Ron 2 minutes before hitting record, but by the end we feel like great friends.

We ask and answer:

• If a marriage doesn’t work, is it a failure?
• When is vulnerability helpful?
• Is the patriarchy hurting men, too?
• What are our partners actually responsible for in a relationship?

And because surface-level convos are not my jam, we also cover:

• How the patterns of our parents have a way of trying to creep into our own relationships and how to catch them
• What it means to craft an intentional relationship/marriage
• What happens when our wounds trigger our partner

This is a conversation about the often vulnerable process of waking up to ourselves, and what it means to embrace that vulnerability in a relationship with another human trying to do the same thing in their own way.Ron also shares what happened when he asked his wife’s dad if he could marry her (it’s not what you might think). And we both share the moments we recognized that our parents are humans, too. 

ABOUT RON

Ron Cecil was born in rural New Mexico, where he fell in love with the Divine, rock climbing, and smoking cigarettes in secret.

In 2016, he committed to his calling as a Masculine Wholeness coach and now guides men through the journey of resetting their nervous systems and disrupting patterns that have kept them from creating mental, physical and emotional health.

Lasting romantic love has also been a vital aspect of Ron’s story. His parents were married 13 times, and this has created in him a devotion to understanding what makes a healthy marriage. He has been vibrantly partnered since 2009 and is now father to a daughter and adopted son.

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Ahh! I’m so excited because Geoff, aka my boyfriend (why isn’t there a word between boyfriend and husband?) is joining me this week! In our first-ever joint episode we’re discussing how to work through conflict in relationships. We share many behind-closed-doors moments of conflict we’ve been through and how we came out on the other side feeling more connected. 

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This week, Erika Lyremark joins me to talk about how we can eliminate decision fatigue. During our conversation, we cover how to make powerful decisions, the difference between a viewpoint and an opinion, why viewpoints make everything easier, and how to get more of what you want in life.

We also each share the scoop on what it was like working with our dads and why our level of commitment is one of the greatest indicators for future success.

ABOUT ERIKA

Think you’re working in a tough marketplace? Try hustling your wares alongside cut-throat dancers and a roomful of customers who think they own you — in a neon bikini and six-inch stilettos for 9 years. That used to be Erika Lyremark!

In 2001, she quit the strip club world and went on to co-create a successful commercial real estate investment company, write Think Like A Stripper: Business Lessons To Up Your Confidence, Attract More Clients & Rule Your Market – endorsed by Shark Tanks’ Barbara Corcoran and #1 NY Times best-seller Dan Pink – and launch her business coaching consultancy in 2005.

Erika spends her leisure time…

Watching Gossip Girl,
Eating take-out with her hunky husband,
Admiring photos of Elo – her adopted orangutan who lives in Indonesia.

And texting the Bugatti headquarters with suggestions on what to call the next generation of sports coupes. The Lyremark, of course.

You can follow Erika on Instagram @dailywhip.

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My friend Britni Ross joins me to talk about money, debt, and the stories we tell ourselves about our worth. We discuss the shame and embarrassment that so often comes with mentioning debt and how talking about money can drastically change friendships for the better.

ABOUT BRITNI

Britni Ross is a Business & Financial Educator who uses behavioral finance to help others master their money, build wealth, & fall back in love with their lives. From budgeting to wealth building, Britni teaches you how to set up and manage all the money stuff in your life. To date, she has paid off over $170,000 in personal debt, which gives her the confidence and the freedom to run her business from the comfort of home. 

Britni is a wife, mother, and creative who lives in rural Ohio where she continues toward her goal of becoming totally debt-free. When she’s not writing you’ll find her painting, gardening, experimenting in her kitchen, or traveling with her family.

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How do we cultivate community as adults? This is the question Mindy Jones joins me to talk about in this week’s episode. During our conversation, Mindy and I talk about belonging, how to lead community with intention, some of the reasons we’re left feeling disconnected in today’s day and age, and how to be intentional about finding friends you want to hang around.

ABOUT MINDY

A native of Arizona, Mindy is the owner of the Amy Jones Group, a residential real estate team serving the Valley. On a mission to thrive, Mindy has created a platform for gritty, busy, hard working women who want to live their best lives personally and professionally by serving through real estate and community. Founded on the core principals of doing things better, Mindy’s team is focused on educating and empowering consumers to make the best decisions for their families.

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Emily Majewski joins me to talk about how our environments—the homes we live in and the buildings we work in—significantly influence our well-being.

We cover how our environments can limit our self-growth, how buildings pollute our bodies, and how to change our chemical dialogue with our homes to promote endorphins.

One of my favorite points of discussion is when Emily and I talk about whether our houses are sick affirming or life affirming.

We also touch on the trend of eggshell white and how our homes are like pharmacies.

If you’ve ever dreamt of building a home from the ground up or if you’re obsessed with optimizing your surroundings for optimal health this episode is for you.

ABOUT EMILY

Emily Majewski is Founder of Phytostone, a natural building products firm in Mexico. Emily is also the creator of Embodied Home Design, an open-source program teaching wellness warriors how to design their dream home centered on personal growth and what she calls ‘tridimensional health’ – where occupants thrive from body + mind to heart. This mission is fueled by 2 things: a passion for upskilling women in optimizing their environments and 2) guacamole a la Mexico. 🙂

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Helping each other out is a good thing, right? What happens when it doesn’t feel like such a good thing, though? What happens when someone in your family gets sick or a friend goes through a hard time, but you don’t want to help them? These are the types of questions my friend Dr. Colter Ray and I are making mentionable in this week’s episode.

We also talk about the pressure of feeling like you have to know what to say and how we can be better supporters if we decide to lend support to a friend or family member going through a tough time.